Here are five prayers for a spouse that is cheating.
1. Prayer for Conviction
Righteous God in heaven, I am praying that You would send my cheating spouse a conviction of their sin and that this would move them to confess it and to repent of it. I know that Your Spirit can move the heart of even a pagan or unbelieving king (Prov 21:1) and so I ask You to send Your convicting Spirit to cause my spouse to see their sin and to be moved to end this adulterous relationship. It is beyond anything that I can do and all I can do is pray, but for You, nothing is impossible (Col 1:16), nothing is too hard, and nothing beyond Your ability, so please intervene on behalf of my spouse to convict them of this sin so that we can be restored to a right relationship with one another and my spouse’s relationship with You can be restored and in the glorious name of Jesus Christ I pray, amen.
2. Prayer for Confession
Father God, right now, I know that my spouse has been cheating on me and I am asking You to help me deal with this heartbreak. I need Your comfort and strength to endure and not just give up on them. Please help drive my spouse to their need to confess their sin and that they would see the grievous sin that adultery is. Only You can grant them brokenness before You and I pray You would move their heart to confess their sin to You and come to me to confess it to me so that we can begin healing this relationship and glorify You oh God in our marriage and in the precious name of the Lord Jesus Christ I pray, amen.
3. Prayer for Repentance
Father God, You alone can move the human heart to confession of sin, to a conviction of sin, and then bring them to repentance. I know that only You can grant them repentance (2nd Tim 2:25) and so that is what I am praying for because my spouse is committing adultery and they are in great danger of Your holy, righteous indignation. I know that unless they repent, they are going to face such a horrible eternity that it can’t even be described (Rev 21:8) and that is something that hurts to even think about, so please Father, grant them repentance so that they might be forgiven and end this adulterous affair so that we can restore our marriage and seek to please You and glorify You in our marriage and in the name of Jesus Christ I pray, amen.
4. Prayer for Reconciliation
Father God, You are the God of Restoration, redeeming us from the pit which eternally lies below for everyone who rejects You (Rev 20:12-15), but right now, I feel rejected as my spouse is cheating and it feels like a knife to my heart. Please help me oh Father in this great time of heartache and to help me to be able to continue in this marriage in the hopes that we can both be reconciled to one another. I know that my spouse is not really happy inside and that the passing pleasures of sin are fleeting but they cannot suppress their conscience for very long Father, so I pray, please move my spouse to confess their sin, to be convicted of their sin, and to repent of their sin with the passionate desire that we can be reconciled to one another and can give You all the glory for saving our marriage and in the Great Name of Jesus Christ I pray, amen.
5. Prayer for Forgiveness
Father, I have sinned, for all have sinned (Rom 3:23), and so please forgive me of my sins as I know You will if I confess them to You (1st John 1:9). I know I might have caused my spouse to lose interest in me or perhaps I drove them away from me by the way that I treated them and didn’t love them unconditionally, and so now, I pray God, that You would bring my spouse back to me and that the adultery that is now happening will stop and that both of them would repent of this and that my spouse would be reconciled to me. God, I will need Your power to help me forgive my spouse and to move forward in our relationship and to glorify You in our marriage, so bring my spouse conviction from this sin so that they would repent of it and we can be joined together in our fellowship and in our relationship with one another and that You could be praised for Your divine intervention and in the strong name of Jesus Christ I pray, amen.
I pray right now for every husband and wife that is struggling with adultery and that God would bring healing for their (or your) marriage. There will be the need for forgiveness of course but if we understand just how much we’ve been forgiven, it should make it much easier for us to forgive our spouse for committing adultery. If they continue in adultery, they may not actually be saved (1st John 3:6-10) and so pray that they are saved and only then will they have the power of God’s Spirit to overcome sin because His Spirit will bring them to conviction of their sin, confession of their sin, repentance of their sin, and forgiveness of their sins. We make a poor imitation of the Holy Spirit. Trust God, obey God, and rest in that.
Article by Jack Wellman
Jack Wellman is Pastor of the Mulvane Brethren Church in Mulvane Kansas. Jack is also the Senior Writer at What Christians Want To Know whose mission is to equip, encourage, and energize Christians and to address questions about the believer’s daily walk with God and the Bible. You can follow Jack on Google Plus or check out his book Teaching Children the Gospel available on Amazon.